Family therapy is not about blaming anybody. You will find me compassionate and non-judgmental. While every case is different, it's unlikely that I haven't heard issues similar to yours before, so you don't have to be afraid to open up.
If you have problems with anger and find yourself somehow driving away the people you care about, you might benefit from DBT.
When you fell in love with your mate, you saw qualities and strengths that made you decide you could build a life with this person. You may have also seen traits that made you see your mate as someone who would make a good parent.
In most cases, those strengths and endearing qualities are still there, but somehow your family has become stuck in dysfunctional patterns of interacting.
Family therapy can get you unstuck. Only licensed marriage and family therapists are required to have extensive training and supervised experience working with families. A mental health counselor or social worker offering "marriage counseling" whose name is not followed by LMFT is NOT a licensed marriage and family therapist.
Karen Ziminski, LMFT